Two Husbands In The House
Many women -because of feminism- don’t obey their husbands, which is sinful.
Some practicing sisters - they are not realizing that they should obey
their husbands. Allah’s Messenger said [meaning]; “If I were to command
anyone to prostrate before anyone, I would have commanded the wife to
prostrate before her husband, because of the enormity of his right upon
her.” [Hasan Sahih Al-Albani]
«لو كنت آمرا أحدا أن يسجد لأحد ؛ لأمرت المرأة أن تسجد لزوجها» حسن صحيح الألباني
There are so many other ahadeeth on the rights of the husband from the wife.
A [non muslim] Noble Prize winner said; The Economical and Social crisis
within the western world is due to the both husbands not playing the
role they should play.
Meaning: the husband should provide for the family, and the woman should
help the husband in the home to raise the children and the household.
He said; the husband should play his major role, and the wife should
play her major role in the house and provide for the children…etc. Once
each party plays their role, a complimentary relationship will form. The
husband is the provider for the house, and the wife uses this provision
to grow the fruits (i.e. children).
A Wife as a Companion
It is the nature of the man; when he comes back home from work, he is
tired and frustrated – and he wants to see his wife looking at him,
smiling and caring for him and giving him attention. If he comes home
from work and sees his wife on the phone, or the internet, or her
attention isn’t on him in a good way – he will feel frustrated. He will
feel that his wife is not for him, and due to this, problems start. Even
a small thing will become a major thing because he will be ready to
argue due to his previous frustration.
Sometimes women might think they’ve done nothing wrong, not knowing the
root of the problem. Men have emotional needs, and these are fulfilled
when we see our wives next to us and on our side, and this is what
brings his happiness.
By not obeying the husband, he feels that she is an opposition to him,
someone who wants to rebel instead of being a partner in support.
Who has more control in the home? The traditional answer would be that
the husband has control of more things within the home. Whereas in
reality; women have more control of the house issues. They just don’t
know it.
How? Men by nature – they don’t want to displease their wives. They
don’t want wives to keep nagging. They want peace of mind in their
houses. Because of this, he wants to do anything to keep her quiet,
pleased…etc.
Advice to women; If you want anything from your husband, ask in a very
emotionally pleasing way. You will never get anything from your husband
if you act like a man with him.
Famous saying; The man is like a ring in the wife’s fingers, she can him wherever she wants.
The woman cannot control her husband by lecturing/commanding or forcing
him, he will hate her if she is like that. But just by a kiss, you can
get whatever you want from your husband.
Their tears affect the man more than anything, instead of them shouting,
they can just cry in a humble way and that will melt the husband’s
heart and be more effective in putting her message across to the
husband.
Unfortunately, many women don’t like to exert this type of etiquette,
and this is what usually leads to two husbands’ being in the house who
are competing against each other - causing the marriage to break down.
Tran******ion of lecture [with additions & editions] “Why Marriages Fail” By, Haitham Haddad
Source:
http://en.wathakker.net/flyers/view.php?id=355
Many women -because of feminism- don’t obey their husbands, which is sinful.
Some practicing sisters - they are not realizing that they should obey
their husbands. Allah’s Messenger said [meaning]; “If I were to command
anyone to prostrate before anyone, I would have commanded the wife to
prostrate before her husband, because of the enormity of his right upon
her.” [Hasan Sahih Al-Albani]
«لو كنت آمرا أحدا أن يسجد لأحد ؛ لأمرت المرأة أن تسجد لزوجها» حسن صحيح الألباني
There are so many other ahadeeth on the rights of the husband from the wife.
A [non muslim] Noble Prize winner said; The Economical and Social crisis
within the western world is due to the both husbands not playing the
role they should play.
Meaning: the husband should provide for the family, and the woman should
help the husband in the home to raise the children and the household.
He said; the husband should play his major role, and the wife should
play her major role in the house and provide for the children…etc. Once
each party plays their role, a complimentary relationship will form. The
husband is the provider for the house, and the wife uses this provision
to grow the fruits (i.e. children).
A Wife as a Companion
It is the nature of the man; when he comes back home from work, he is
tired and frustrated – and he wants to see his wife looking at him,
smiling and caring for him and giving him attention. If he comes home
from work and sees his wife on the phone, or the internet, or her
attention isn’t on him in a good way – he will feel frustrated. He will
feel that his wife is not for him, and due to this, problems start. Even
a small thing will become a major thing because he will be ready to
argue due to his previous frustration.
Sometimes women might think they’ve done nothing wrong, not knowing the
root of the problem. Men have emotional needs, and these are fulfilled
when we see our wives next to us and on our side, and this is what
brings his happiness.
By not obeying the husband, he feels that she is an opposition to him,
someone who wants to rebel instead of being a partner in support.
Who has more control in the home? The traditional answer would be that
the husband has control of more things within the home. Whereas in
reality; women have more control of the house issues. They just don’t
know it.
How? Men by nature – they don’t want to displease their wives. They
don’t want wives to keep nagging. They want peace of mind in their
houses. Because of this, he wants to do anything to keep her quiet,
pleased…etc.
Advice to women; If you want anything from your husband, ask in a very
emotionally pleasing way. You will never get anything from your husband
if you act like a man with him.
Famous saying; The man is like a ring in the wife’s fingers, she can him wherever she wants.
The woman cannot control her husband by lecturing/commanding or forcing
him, he will hate her if she is like that. But just by a kiss, you can
get whatever you want from your husband.
Their tears affect the man more than anything, instead of them shouting,
they can just cry in a humble way and that will melt the husband’s
heart and be more effective in putting her message across to the
husband.
Unfortunately, many women don’t like to exert this type of etiquette,
and this is what usually leads to two husbands’ being in the house who
are competing against each other - causing the marriage to break down.
Tran******ion of lecture [with additions & editions] “Why Marriages Fail” By, Haitham Haddad
Source:
http://en.wathakker.net/flyers/view.php?id=355